• Life Lessons

    When I die…

    Every time I hear of someone having lost someone to death my heart sinks into this dark zone filled with sadness and sorrow. I think of the life of the departed one in the sense that this persons entire plans are cut short just like that. And I really cannot stop thinking about the people that a departed one leaves behind. That makes me feel even sadder. It’s maybe because I have felt the sting that death leaves behind way too close and often. I like to openly talk about death because it is a part of life that no one can shake off or run from. I hope we…

  • Life Lessons,  Struggles. Hope

    Who calls who and who meets who nowadays?

    The other day I ranted a bit on how we have become social media addicts. This whole technology platform has replaced so many physical contacts. It is slowly killing the need of people meeting as often as needed (if it already hasn’t) , people having a great time together and neither being on their phones while at it. Hell! it has reduced the amount of human touch we have with each other. Like hugs and cuddles. You might think huh! who wants to hug and cuddle? I tell you, we need that a lot than we know. We literally take our godforsaken phones just about anywhere. Someone will spend even…

  • Allgemein,  Life Lessons

    The Untold Truth

    I recently read a tweet that our parents will get shocked at the number of us who are not looking into marriage. And easy as it is to brush it off… There’s so much to where that is coming from. … When an ‘aunty'(ies) randomly mentions ‘if you get married to this particular tribe, don’t expect me to attend your wedding or have a certain connection with me….. Or When a mum randomly tells a daughter not to bring her a son in-law that has dreads, tattoos and all that, reason being, simply because it is ‘absurd’ for a man to grow hair’…. not to forget that in the 80’s…

  • Family,  Life Lessons,  Love,  Struggles. Hope

    Unloved

    I‘m sorry but I‘m not really sorry for a particular kind of people who whine uncontrollably of how unloved they are. I‘ll give a pass now and then for anyone who at some point feel this way. I mean, we are all human and very needy humans at times. We all want to be seen, noticed, taken seriously, cared for, pampered, mention it, in ways we sometimes don’t even know how. And in wanting to receive what we crave for so badly, we will most times try to manipulate the ones in our lives to get it. I completely sympathize with people who received close to no love while growing…

  • Life Lessons,  Struggles. Hope

    Common denominator?You!

    You might be asking every so often why certain things happen to you. And it might feel as if the universe conspires against you and leads you to that shit hole you keep finding yourself in. But do you actually realize that often than not, you are the only person who can keep putting yourself in the same situation you keep finding yourself into? And instead of always rushing to put the blame on someone else or something else, can you also take a sit and search within yourself and your doings, and I’m convinced you will find what you won’t like. That part you play. The bitter pill to…

  • Life Lessons

    Declutter friendships.

    I have often been confused at times trying to figure out what kind of a person I really am to myself and to others. I’ve been (and still am) on a journey of trying to deeply connect with myself and trying to find myself away from who I associate with, be it family, friends or otherwise. It is tricky having too many friends. I see good in people, I make friends too fast, and when we connect I find I can call you my friend. I have misused the word friend long enough until I got to realize the power of the word acquaintance. Huge difference. I realized it is…

  • Family,  Life Lessons

    Rebel & Deuteronomy 22:5

    (my father would never tell you who this is.lol) Don’t we love our parents to death but sometimes they are the last people we want to invade our space? Our parents raise us to look up on them as gods. Or maybe they don’t. Probably the „rule of nature“ finds its way to interpret the love and admiration we have for them as such. We also sometimes get torn between having respect for them and fearing them. Looking back into my childhood, my father was everything for me. My first male love. I shared with him everything anyone gave me. I would keep half of my food for him. He…

  • Life Lessons,  Struggles. Hope

    Uncertainty of freedom (2)

    Tick Tock Tick Tock Time’s still ticking. You decide to take up on a language course. You catch up so fast and is among the best in class. Along the way someone sells you the idea of going abroad. To Germany of course since you are studying German. You have mastered the language enough to borrow water but you never ever thought Germany was the place for you. USA was always your dream destination. You have family that always psyched you up to finish school and they would get you to the States. Done with school and none of them remembers how they gassed you up. They don’t even have…

  • Life Lessons,  Struggles. Hope

    Live for you! Don’t forget yourself in the name of sacrifices. 😘

    For the longest time in my life I lived for other people. I lived to see others happy to the expense of my own happiness. I lived to make others proud of me and wallow in their validation. I did things for others. There wasn’t a journey I started for me. It was always for someone, family or friends. Maybe it’s because I grew up in a culture where everyone points out the responsibility you have over the others, and you are rarely told to do one or two things for you. Yourself. Society hands you the cross and you drag it along for so long you keep tripping and…